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Questions tagged [pre-teen]

Age specific questions from about 11 years to about 13 years. Also known as "tweens". Younger: middle-childhood. Older: teen.

This tag covers questions for those who are not yet in the teenage years, but are beyond the first few years of schooling.

As with any age specific tag, the edges are fuzzy between this and the previous and following tags: and .

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How to address a child having a racist friend?

I have a son who is 10. He plays online games with a small group of other kids of very similar ages. I know who they are, and I know the parents, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that we are friends. I don't even have phone numbers for most of…
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How to react to an eleven-year-old sneaking out at night to look at the stars?

During the holidays, two kids from two families that we are friends with snuck out at night to look at the stars. The mother of one twelve year old boy reacted with an outburst of anger and severely berated her son, while the parents of the eleven…
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What would be a good kit for cardboard construction projects for a pre-teen?

I really enjoyed making things out of cardboard as a kid and my daughter (10) loves physical construction as well. Some of the things I'd like to provide her tools for : Easily cutting cardboard Klever Cutter (cost is about $3 ea. but I suspect…
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How to make my 11-year-old boy more responsible?

My 11-year-old boy seems irresponsible. I understand that he is still young, but I would like to have some advice on how I need to deal with him when he makes a mistake. For example, he damaged his phone, his school tablet, his own tablet and…
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Children and Cell phones

How young is too young to have a cell phone? My 11 year old spends weekends away from mom and I need to keep in touch.
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My 11-year-old daughter's temper is getting out of control

I need help with my daughter. She screamed in my face, she tries to block my way when I try to leave the room, she's tried to pull my hair, and she ripped a shirt I was wearing trying to keep me in place when she doesn't want me to leave. I've…
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My 11 year old Granddaughter told her Father today shes a lesbian

My Granddaughter told her Dr. and Father she is a lesbian, and asked to talk to a counselor. I'm wondering at this age, do they really know for sure or because they hang with girls who think they are, is it the thing to do at this age with girls…
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How to talk to my 13 year old son about inapropriate comments

Recently an issue has arisen with my 13 year old son and a girl he was "dating". While they were dating, I was one of those parents that always went through his phone and read messages. I was relieved when they broke up because some of the things…
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Adjusting to boarding school

We have sent our 12 year old daughter to a boarding school. How can i help her not to miss her mother to an extent that she is upset the whole day, has bouts of crying? She has been away for a week, we spoke about this for over a year, normally she…
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My 12-year old daughter all of a sudden says she's trans

To give some background, my daughter has always been the proverbial girly-girl. Loved her long hair and styling it different ways, loved playing with makeup, always begging me to let her wear makeup and trying to steal my clothes. Total diva. She…
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How can I help my 11-year old boy create his first videogame?

Today I sent my child a link to a report about a boy, who has created a commercially viable videogame. My son replied that he may intend to do something similar. I asked him about the bottleneck of this project - what prevents him from making…
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My friend opened up to me about depression

So I'm 13 years old and in 7th grade. I have this friend that I met this year. She's been a really good friend to me but I wouldn't describe her a best friend. There has recently been some drama over someone liking her and she lashed out at that…
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Avoiding predators of a child on a website

I'm a minor who is dealing with pedos on a chat website they keep trying to friend me and give me badges I tried to report them but the moderation team won't do anything how can I stop them? Also, I can ignore them but they still keep doing other…
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