I understand that If I add an infinite number of variables the limiting standardised distribution is standard normal. This comes from CLT
I also understand that the summation of independent Poissons is Poisson with a rate parameter equal to the individual rate parameters of summand distributions
These two prima facie seem to contradict each other. However, in the CLT we add iid distributions that are fixed apriori. The example case here is that of addition of infinite iid Bernoulli. For, CLT $n \to \infty$, $p$ remains constant. And, in the case of Poisson $np \to \lambda$ ($n \to \infty$ and $p \to 0$)
The real-life examples are however more like snapshots that do not tell us the way the limits are approached. Example: I have 20,000 samples with $p(X=1) = 0.00005$, or we have 100 samples with $p(X=1) = 0.1$ and so on and so forth
My question is when to model the system as a Poisson and when is it more prudent to model the system using a normal if all we have available is a value of $n$ and $p$?