If you define variance as $s^2_{n}=$$\,\text{MSE}\,$$=\frac1n \sum_{i=1}^n (x_i-\bar{x})^2$ -- similar to population variance but with sample mean for $\mu$, then both your samples would have the same variance.
So the difference is purely because of Bessel's correction in the usual formula for the sample variance ($s^2_{n-1}=\frac{n}{n-1}\cdot \text{MSE}=\frac{n}{n-1}\cdot \frac1n \sum_{i=1}^n (x_i-\bar{x})^2=\frac{1}{n-1}\sum_{i=1}^n (x_i-\bar{x})^2$, which adjusts for the fact that the sample mean is closer to the data than the population mean is, in order to make it unbiased (taking the right value "on average").
The effect gradually goes away with increasing sample size, as $\frac{n-1}{n}$ goes to 1 as $n\to\infty$.
There's no particular reason you have to use the unbiased estimator for variance, by the way -- $s^2_n$ is a perfectly valid estimator, and in some cases may arguably have advantages over the more common form (unbiasedness isn't necessarily that big a deal).
Variance itself isn't directly a measure of spread. If I double all the values in my data set, I contend they're twice as "spread". But variance increases by a factor of 4. So more usually, it is said that standard deviation, rather than variance is a measure of spread.
Of course, the same issue occurs with standard deviation (the usual $s_{n-1}$ version) as with variance -- when you double up the points the standard deviation changes, for the same reason as happens with the variance.
In small samples the Bessel correction makes standard deviation somewhat less intuitive as a measure of spread because of that effect (that duplicating the sample changes the value). But many measures of spread do retain the the same value when duplicating the sample; I'll mention a few --
$s_n$ (of course)
the mean (absolute) deviation from the mean
the median (absolute) deviation from the median
the interquartile range (at least for some definitions of sample quartiles)
{3, 5}itself is 1, per the first formula. As you point out, the questioner has attempted to estimate the variance of a population from which this is presumed to be a sample, but who knows whether it is or not. – Steve Jessop Jun 21 '15 at 12:44