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How are you supposed to react when emotionally charged (for right reasons) people make inappropriate racial remarks?
To describe further let's take an example. Consider a person V, victim of an event or witnessed injustice. It seemed quite obvious that a person X who belongs to a group G is responsible for said injustice.
With emotion running high, they rightfully…
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How do I talk to someone through a translator?
I am a private piano teacher. I recently accepted a student who has only been living in the US for a couple weeks and does not know English. Her mother sits next to us during the lessons and translates. I struggle particularly with getting the…
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How can I better handle 'bad-news' talks about family members I don't care about?
There are a few people in my life that I can't avoid because they're family, but that I do not care about at all. Yet, from time to time a parent or grandparent will start sharing things about these people, and I know it's polite to at least show…
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For how long after New Year's Day is it appropriate to wish people all the best for the new year?
Today is my first day back at the office after a two-week vacation, and so there's a lot of handshakes and well-wishing ('happy new year', 'best wishes') going on.
Which raised a fun discussion between me and my co-workers: Some of them completely…
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How to tell my alcoholic aunt I fear for my cousins' lives because of her drunk-driving?
Content warning: Alcoholism, physical and psychological violence.
My cousin just called me in tears. Again. She shared her fears with me about her parents drinking too much, even when they have to drive. She wanted to know what she could do to…
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How can I talk about loneliness without sounding like I'm indulging in self-pity?
I'm a 27-year-old man.
I feel like a lot of the baggage I am carrying stems from moving around a lot and not really being able to find communities where I belong, as well as being pretty unpopular socially in my teens/early adulthood.
When I get…
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How to let other coworkers know that I don't share my coworker's political views?
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Today, I was in my workplace kitchen where I was having lunch. There were other coworkers having lunch there too. One of them (let's call him Bob) was talking about political stuff and displaying his (extreme) political views that I…
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How do I diplomatically get someone to hurry up and make a trivial decision?
This question was initially triggered by an incident with a houseguest a few months ago.
Earlier in the day, he was tossing up whether to join a group of us who were going out for a drink in the evening or go out dancing. I was indifferent; he was…
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How can I lay out my reasons to my girlfriend for why we shouldn't get married?
My girlfriend isn't a citizen of the US and I am. We've also have only been dating for 4 months.
So when we first started dating she said that if I wasn't ready for commitment in the range of 1-3 years, then we should reconsider continuing our…
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Telling shy person about discomfort during sex
I’ve recently become more sexually active and have found myself in a difficult position. I’m currently in a “friends with benefits” type of relationship and have found my partner to be quite shy and reserved about things. I really don’t know them…
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How can I decline a hug without offending?
My boyfriend shares an apartment with an older man who has a physical disability which prevents him from walking. The housemate is very kind and intelligent. However, sometimes when I am alone with him he will ask me to come over and give him a hug.…
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How to handle accidentally bumping into a drunk person while walking?
Yesterday when I left my office, I bumped into a drunk person while walking. I didn't notice him, since I was walking while checking my WhatsApp messages.
Then, since he was drunk, he started behaving very badly and I couldn't handle the situation…
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How to explain to my girlfriend that I enjoy certain video games?
I would like to ask for advice about my current situation, my girlfriend (26) and I (31) have been together for 2 months now and we really have lots in common and always have a great time together but! I am an IT guy so I am into technology very…
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How to ask someone you see regularly out on a date, without making it awkward?
Here's the situation:
There's this girl, let's call her Jane, that I've known for slightly over a year.
We met pretty randomly when we were both looking for a dance partner for ballroom dancing, and the past year we pretty much only met at lessons…
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How do I prevent people from repeating to others everything I say to them?
I’d like to know how I can make people stop telling others every single thing I tell them.
Here’s a dialog between me and my high-school classmate, in class:
Me: In case you can’t eat any more, can I have the rest? (Out of taste)
My colleague:…
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