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The term "first world problems" refers to a petty thing complained about by someone living in the upper or middle class.

Is there are word or phrase that means problems or complaints about things that you have relatively little to worry about compared with others (especially in front of those others).

For example, a straight A student complaining about getting a B on a difficult math test that almost everyone failed.

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  • I can remember a time when hotels used to polish your shoes for you if you left them outside the room door at night. To expect such a service nowadays would be seen as your being excessively precious. At least it would in Britain. – WS2 May 04 '15 at 00:36
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    One I found on the internet is "white whine". – Hot Licks May 04 '15 at 01:51
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    Some info: http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/first-world-problems – Hot Licks May 04 '15 at 01:52
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    @WS2. Once, atypically staying in a five-star where the maid came twice, once to make up the room and again in the evening to "open the bed" (this was on Madeira, maybe others would say "turn back/down" etc.), I asked the concierge why they did this. Not complaining, just curious. His answer was that if the maid did not "open the bed" for them, some guests complained bitterly. Say what? You can't climb into a made bed without assistance? Yeah, the rich are different. – David Pugh May 04 '15 at 11:43
  • There are standards, after all, @David Pugh. What would life be without such amenities! –  May 05 '15 at 16:58
  • @Little Eva: "Flexible", is what. – David Pugh May 06 '15 at 09:59
  • I hope you know I'm "jesting", @David ! :-) –  May 06 '15 at 14:51
  • @Little Eva. Sure. Such jesting deserves to be told how I am going to spend a quiet evening in the five-star in the Swiss capital overlooking the river and the Alps. Sandwiches, juice, chocolate, SE/ ELL, no mosquitoes and no African power cuts.... – David Pugh May 06 '15 at 16:09
  • @David - What? No cheese, no crackers ... no whine? –  May 06 '15 at 16:20
  • @Little Eva: No, I would have got them if I'd wanted. Happy with juice not wine. So no, no whine. I can't find any FWP around me, let alone African ones. – David Pugh May 06 '15 at 16:29

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As a noun, you can consider trifle.

A trifle is something that's totally unimportant. If your friend is freaking out over which shoes to buy and you call her dilemma a trifle, you're saying she shouldn't get so worked up over nothing. [vocabulary.com]

or fuss.

an expression of anger or complaint especially about something that has little importance [MW]

Fuss is a verb also, same as to make a fuss; make much ado about trifles/nothing.

to complain especially about something relatively unimportant. [dictionary.reference.com]

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There's the term world's smallest violin, which is used to express mock sympathy.

In conversation, it's often accompanied by a hand gesture, as if someone is playing a miniature violin. For example, to that "A" student complaining about his B on the math test, I could say something like:

Aw, that's a shame. Here's the world's smallest violin, playing I Feel Sorry for You.

The website TV Tropes says this about the gesture:

A predominantly Western gesture, the World's Smallest Violin is given to a person who is exaggerating the sorrow of his/her predicament in order to gain sympathy; the person who does the giving presumably has none.

Wikipedia mentions it under a list of hand gestures; the page there reads:

World's Smallest Violin (also called "How Sad" or "World's Smallest Violin Playing Hearts and Flowers") is made by rubbing the thumb and forefinger together, to imitate bowing a violin. This gesture is used to express sarcasm and lack of sympathy, in response to someone exaggerating a sad story or unfair treatment.

Another (more brief) way to express such mock sympathy would be:

Oh, “Woe is me!”

I put the quotation marks in that sarcastic remark, because if I said “Woe is me!” in that vein to the B student, I would be putting those words into the student's mouth.

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Whine:

1.3 A feeble or petulant complaint:

ODO

White Whine:

A collection of first-world problems
Updated daily

The worst part of car shopping ... I have to call the sellers. Ugh.

A coffee mug that is too big for any of your cup holders is a total nightmare...

Whitewhine.com

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If you suspect it is a way of boasting without seeming to overtly, that is referred to as a humblebrag.

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    Never heard that before, but I like it. – David Pugh May 04 '15 at 11:38
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    Humblebrags are when someone makes light of a difficult task, not when one complains about their perceived poor experience in a situation where others have it worse. – Chase Sandmann May 04 '15 at 15:46
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    The connotations are different: someone who humblebrags (busybrags, et al) is calculating, whereas someone with first-world problems is clueless. – choster May 04 '15 at 16:34
  • @choster - I'd agree with that. But this is still far closer to the right connotation than the current accepted answer. :-) – T.E.D. May 05 '15 at 08:56
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Niggle:

v.intr.

  1. To cause one to be persistently preoccupied, annoyed, or uncomfortable:
    Doubts niggled at the back of my mind.

  2. To pester someone or be annoying or uncomfortable in a persistent way:
    He niggled at me all day to lend him my car.

  3. To be overly concerned or argumentative, especially about something petty; fuss:
    niggled over contract details.

When Straight-A Joe niggled about getting a B on the that test everyone else failed, we felt like strangling him.

v.tr.

  1. To preoccupy, annoy, make uncomfortable in a persistent way:
    Suspicions niggled him.
  2. To pester or nag (someone).

Settling for half-and-half in her coffee niggled Sally, and her incessant bitching about it niggled us.

n

  1. a slight or trivial objection or complaint

  2. a slight feeling as of misgiving, uncertainty, etc

The oversize coffee mug is your niggle; I have bigger things on my mind.

niggling

adj.

Annoying, troubling, or irritating in a petty way:
a pointless dispute over niggling details.

He would have pulled a straight 4.0, except for that niggling B in Phys-Ed.

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What's wrong with first world problem? That is a generic term. It can be used in precisely the context you describe. The Oxford Dictionary defines the phrase as:

A relatively trivial or minor problem or frustration (implying a contrast with serious problems such as those that may be experienced in the developing world):

Wiktionary states that

The term is used to minimize complaints about trivial issues by shaming the complainer, or as good-humored self-deprecation.

Basically, the phrase can be used to describe any problem that, objectively, can be considered trivial. It does not need to involve upper or middle class, it just describes a problem that wouldn't really be an issue if the person in question had any real problems such as needing to find food or shelter.

Example uses (taken from here) include:

Missed The Movie Previews

Where to Go On Vacation

Cracked My Cell Phone Screen

I gained Weight

Have Cereal But No Milk

A quick Google Images search for "first world problems" returns things like:

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and

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So, in short, just use first world problems, it is precisely what you're looking for.

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  • +1. This was precisely what I thought when reading the question. A first-world problem has nothing to do with the social class of the complainer. – Janus Bahs Jacquet May 05 '15 at 11:05
  • @Janus - The definition says, "implying a contrast with serious problems such as those that may be experienced in the developing world." I think the O.P. is looking for a term that can be used in the same way, but where no such contrast is implied. The "motivational" posters here, for example, are meant to underscore that refugees don't get chocolate chip cookies and milk, yet someone is complaining about the size of the glass, or that children in don't get to play with Legos, but we complain when they stick together. It's a glass-half-empty kind of thing. – J.R. May 05 '15 at 17:48
  • (cont.) The other examples follow this pattern: Instead of being grateful I'm at the cinema, I'm complaining because I missed the previews; I'm full of angst because I don't know where I should go on vacation (while others would be thankful to have a job); instead of being glad for my working cell phone, I'm sad because the screen is cracked, and so forth. These FWPs are funny because, when you think about them, they highlight an wealth of resources and technology. The weight gain, when viewed as a first world problem, underscores ready access to abundant food. Not so much the B on the test. – J.R. May 05 '15 at 17:56
  • +1 because I've just come back from a place where if you have a medical problem and don't have the cash, and the hospital has taken your rings and bracelets and you are still short the money for a litre of blood (about half the monthly salary of a waitress), you die on the table, see if they care. – David Pugh May 06 '15 at 16:25
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I live in the north of the UK, and I've heard the word "nesh" used quite a bit to describe someone who complains about a situation that's not necessarily worth complaining about.

eg.

Person 1: "I don't like my nose, I'm going to get it fixed"

Person 2: "Don't be so nesh!"

The actual original use of this word is to describe someone who is particularly susceptible to cold weather, but as society has developed around my area, so has the local use of this word as an analogy. It might be particularly constrained to Huddersfield as a town though, as I've lived there all my life and nowhere else.

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