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How do you deal with someone who always has to one up everyone?
Have you ever met one of those people who's been everywhere and done everything and doesn't know anyone who hasn't?
Like no matter what you have to say they have to tell a bigger, better, and often longer story?
I usually chalk this behavior up to…
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How to ask a large group of people to stop playing loud music on a train
Sometimes when my friends/colleagues (2-3 people) and I travel by train there is another group of people who play songs on their mobile phones without using headphones and on full volume.
Many of us (as well as other passengers) get disturbed by the…
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How can I learn to be a good active listener?
One conversation skill I've heard about is "Active Listening". What does this mean?
If people don't think that I'm a good listener, is this something I can develop?
What are some specific active listening skills I can learn?
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How do I explain to my partner that often his unsolicited advice is unnecessary?
My partner and I have been together for 15 years and, in general, have excellent communication. However, I can't seem to get past a couple of issues with him. In this case, it's his continued insistence on offering "advice" or making some comment…
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Why is it considered bad form to break up with someone over written text?
I am autistic and, when I was a teenager (10 years ago), I had always heard that it was "rude" to break up with someone over text. However, I never understood why.
What's wrong with communicating by writing? Is it just that you would be deemed a…
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How do I ask people out in an online group?
For the past few months, I've been participating in a group on MeetUp.com. This particular group holds a weekly social event on Zoom and plays online games together every few days. (The issues below, however, apply to all the MeetUp groups I'm in.)…
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How to politely explain to one of our friends why we don't want to meet at his place?
So we're a pack of long time friends (15 years+) and we hang out with each other many times. The meeting place (if we don't go out to town) is one of our houses, and we rotate it (so no one is forced to clean after us 4 times a month :) ).
One of…
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How can one handle an encounter with a beggar/homeless person?
I used to work in Downtown Orlando, which is notorious for its amount of people walking the streets no matter if it's day or night. I worked Downtown for about six months, and I started to notice the people who were peddling every day, as well as…
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Preventing certain topics from being raised by a close relative
My friend (I got her consent to ask this question here) is currently dealing with major depression and anxiety issues (she is currently on therapy and medication), which started after a messy breakup - it was one of the contributing factors, but…
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What to do if my family keeps trying to fix my relationship with a family member?
I've been estranged from my abusive mother for some time now. We always had problems and she suddenly stopped talking to me, which by no means upset me - I've been feeling better after this, because there is no more fighting.
She had a mental…
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How to reveal you're not being your true self
A friend of mine got into a relationship after a long drought. Her partner is very sensitive and would react badly to many of her mannerisms - jokes, sarcasm and some ways of saying things that she always did - so at the start of the relationship…
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How could I have better handled telling this minority woman I liked her cultural hairstyle?
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This happened in Netherlands. I have some mixed ancestry. I mostly look like a Dutch person, except for my curly bush of hair and my olive skin. In school I got bullied a lot because of my hair. I've only recently stopped straightening my…
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How can I convey to my husband to take an extra step to finish a task completely?
Hard to explain the question in the title, but anywho.
My husband has this tendency to do something and do it almost completely, but stop one step short, or just take a shortcut. A few examples:
Toilet paper roll runs out in the bathroom so he gets…
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How to tell about a deal-breaker without it sounding like an ultimatum
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My new date has a habit that is a deal-breaker for me. She knows it bothers me generally, but doesn't know it bothers me enough to break up with her.
My questions is, how do I tell her that without it sounding like an ultimatum?
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I…
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What techniques are proven ways to fix an unbalance between levels of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust?
In my latest answer, I explained the concepts of benevolence-based trust and integrity-based trust:
Intentions are more important than honesty for building benevolence-based trust.
So, a pro-social deception, even if found out, can still make Alice…
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